Freedom in Romance
Everyone love’s the experience of being in-love. Continuing our series of how to be free in the world, we will explore practical ways to open the space of romance between two individuals in a way that...
View ArticleContacting the Darkside
Secretly, or not so secretly, the villain Darth Vader is many people’s favorite character in Star Wars. Although few would admit it, perhaps he is more easily or more deeply identified with than the...
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Roots of the Darkside
In our last session we acknowledged the commonness of various forms of aggression in our everyday experience and began the work of contacting these emotional drivers of behavior. We emphasized the...
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Zen vs. Darkside of Relationship
In our first session of this series, “Contacting the Darkside” we saw how common, although hidden, frustration, anger and hatred are in people’s experience, from minor examples like annoyances like...
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Darkness Incarnate: Introducing the Body Blueprint
At the deepest levels of our relationship blueprint is a body blueprint. How does it form? Why is aggression fundamental to it? And how can feeling our bodies release this deepest level of...
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Seduction Skills
The biggest mistake that people make in pick up is getting into a heady or dramatic space instead of doing what it takes to be present and from there being intentional about moving things forward....
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Resisting Sexual Energy is Futile
Transcendence of instinctual sexual energy has not worked out well in the cultures that have tried it (although it is theoretically possible). It is also not actually desired by most people. You are...
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The four relationships that make up every relationship blueprint
We are going to do an overview and at the same time and in-depth analysis of the primary selves that we live our lives through when we are in our relationship blueprints. The first person to well...
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Grasping & Rejecting
Last week we looked at the primary object relations in a person’s relationship blueprint. This week we will focus on two of those internalized relationships, the wanting or grasping relationship and...
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The Healthy Ego & Beyond
So far we’ve distinguished the four primary relationships that make up the relationship blueprint. Then we focused in on the grasping and the rejecting relationships, which are the modes of operation...
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Touching Another’s Heart
The human heart goes very deep into a spiritual dimension. There’s a reason that heart and center mean the same thing and if we go into our hearts very, very deeply, we can locate our center, we can...
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Advanced Masculine/Feminine Dynamics #1
Men and women are different in many ways. Most people would agree with this, at least intellectually, but are not necessarily fully experientially, and I mean physically and emotionally, perceptive of...
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Advanced Masculine/Feminine Dynamics 2
If we notice the opposite sex, that has an impact on how we feel. We notice something different. There’s more polarity. If we let our bodies notice it, we even feel it viscerally. If we let our hearts...
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Advanced Masculine/Feminine Dynamics 3
We’ve established that noticing the difference between the masculine and feminine acknowledges the polarity that’s already there and increases chemistry or being turned on. We’ve also established that...
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Advanced Masculine Feminine Dynamics Part 4
In many spiritual traditions, the masculine is considered the consciousness and the feminine is considered the incarnated. Now, both consciousness and the incarnated are both considered to come from...
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Rewire Your Brain
We will briefly review the two most important techniques from Neuroscience to rewire our brains for enjoyment and success, as well as providing abundant examples and practices, so that you can have...
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Rewire Your Brain: Imaginary Problems!
How do we handle the human mind’s ability to create endless and continual problems… especially in the areas that we care about most, like our love lives! From a scientific perspective, the approach is...
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Freedom in the World- Love
If we look at desire, what it’s like to free desire, to open that whole dimension of being very related to our pelvis and sex and desire and the body and wanting… what it’s like to liberate that or...
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The Practice of Partnership
Spiritual practice, real spiritual practice is not goal oriented. If it’s goal oriented it’s not actually spiritual practice. My Zen teacher used to call that “stepladder practice”, so that’s really...
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Romantic Games 1: The Most Common Romantic Games
We will define what a romantic game is exactly and take a survey of the most come romantic games people play. Most people would acknowledge that people play games in relationship, especially romantic...
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